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Post by Laura Rice on Aug 25, 2008 15:24:18 GMT -5
I spanked my son when he was young with a bolo paddle. He would get 10 licks for punishment. He knew the rules and understood every time when he would get a spanking. He didn't like it at all but he understood why he was being punished.
I was the only parent that spanked. I am the only parent that receives the truth from him as a teenager. (granted his dad is a cop) I also have been closer to him than his dad because he respects what I have been trying to teach him while raising him. My son is no angel but he is far from the devil as well. If he does something wrong I do not have to work to get the truth all I have to do is ask.
Raising a child to a teenager to an adult is very, very hard and I am glad that I only had one by design. I take it very seriously if I am not raising him correctly or if I think our communication line has been broken and needs to be repaired.
You just have to follow your instinct, do the best you can and love them with all you have and let them know it...
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Post by rumpleteaser on Aug 25, 2008 15:59:21 GMT -5
" He understood why he was being punished. " That's the key. He knew what to expect when he did something wrong. Some parents use spanking as an excuse to knock their kids around.. just for the hell of it.
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Post by AP Mommy on Aug 25, 2008 16:29:45 GMT -5
Yes. Dr. Spock has been dead for 10 years. Perhaps you are thinking of Dr. Ferber who decided his original methods were too harsh, or that parents were too dumb not to use his system when it wasn't age or mentally appropriate.
Check out snopes for the scoop on Dr. Spock's son. It was actually his grandson (a schizophrenic) that jumped to his death.
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Post by slobberchops on Aug 25, 2008 19:34:36 GMT -5
So you don't spank your kids, your son is uncircumcised, and your children are vegans? Dr. Spock gave plenty of wise parenting advice including telling parents to trust themselves. However, of the generation of kids that came up under parents employing his advice, how did we end up with so many druggies, criminals, and mentally disturbed people? I have read that Dr. Spock didn't even follow his own advice with his children. I never said I didn't spank my kids. Honestly, I dont know where you come up with your notions to accusations, sometimes. Not to mention, I only offered Dr. Spock as a wonderful resource. But as far as the how did we end up with bla bla and suchy such.... it seems to me that your the one more QUALIFIED here to answer your own question. Ya know... given you have a BA in HUMAN LEARNING. *modified post - regarding your comment about my kids not being circumcised or vegans. Dr.Spock advocated circumcision although he was not circumcised. I dont get the meat stuff.. but before you speak maybe you should look up Dr. Benjamen Spock. Yes, my kids eat meat, not a lot of pork. And yes.. they are circumcised. We are Jews for Jesus, and my father wouldn't have it any other way.
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Post by slobberchops on Aug 25, 2008 19:39:17 GMT -5
FYI folks, Dr. Spock has been discredited for years. Even he doesn't believe that stuff any longer. Believe what stuff? ... like when to switch to solid foods.. or the right age to potty train? Btw, Dr. Spock has been pushing up daisies for 10 yrs or longer.
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